I spent decades feeling insecure and overly self-conscious - with the occasional blip of confidence showing up in my life.
Let me be clear. when I talk about confidence, I'm not referring to the showy, charismatic, extroverted display we often see in others - for the most part, that's usually about a person's ego. And it can also be a cover-up for insecurity. For sure, some of us do have a natural extroverted charisma - and if that's who you are, good for you!
The confidence I'm talking about is feeling comfortable in your own skin. We've all experienced it from time to time. Remember when you fell in love? All of a sudden, you were not only in love with the beloved, but you also loved yourself; you suddenly loved how you looked - you loved who you were BEING. You slipped into a feeling of well-being.
And that my friend, is a perfect example of YOU slipping into your true nature.
The times I spent mostly living with insecurity would frustrate me so much that I would reach for whatever I could find that held the promise of confidence. It was like have a drinking problem - when you wake up the next morning with a hangover and say:
That's it! - never again! - I'm tired of feeling this way.
In my case, I would turn to books and workshops that convinced me I could fix and rid me of my problem. And know you what? The advice would help me, but only up to a point, because I'd find myself right back feeling insecure in no time at all.
No matter how long I was able to cope and manage my insecurity, my habit of insecurity seemed to pick up right where it left off.
Why? Because the (well-meaning) advice was about coping and managing - it was all surface advice. It didn't go deep enough. It wasn't long-lasting, and it failed to explain 2 important truths that I have come to discover:
1. I am NOT my insecurity. That my insecurity is not a personality trait.
2. That my insecurity was just a habit - just like a drinking habit - only, in this case, I had a habit of THINKING of myself as insecure.
Once I understood these two vital components, it explained all of those years that I had felt trapped and frustrated. It explained how I had kept the habit alive, AND it provided the KEY to set myself free.
If you're wondering why you can't quite shake off feelings of insecurity, impostor syndrome, & worrying too much about how others view you, if you keep flip-flopping back and forth from insecurity to confidence to insecurity, then you won't want to miss out on my new online course:
CONFIDENCE IN A BOX
It's self-guided, self-paced, and it's all video-based so that you can watch it in the comfort and privacy of your own home.
Confidence in a Box is where I share everything I've learned and realized over the course of 2 decades both as a coach and practitioner, about how to access and uncover your natural confidence without having to spend endless hours managing and coping, without having to fake it 'till you make it!
While we're all spending more time at home because of the pandemic, there couldn't be a better time to:
Curl up in your PJ's with a bowl of popcorn, an open mind, and find out how you can break the habit of being your insecure self!Now is the time to invest in your future.And who knows how you're going to emerge!I can't wait to see it!CONFIDENCE IN A BOX!If you're interested in uncovering your own beauty and potential - and who wouldn't be? then check out my online course (see below).IF I'M SO SMART, THEN WHY DON'T I FEEL MORE CONFIDENT?It contains the road-map, the manual, the TRUTH of how we're all creating what's showing up in our lives - insecurity and confidence! In short, how to have a really nice life without letting insecurity, impostor syndrome & performance anxiety get in your way. Confidence is a wonderful feeling of freedomWant some?