ARE YOU BORING OR CHARISMATIC?
People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel - Maya Angelou
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about men - how different they are when it comes to personal development, and how isolated many of them are in life.
Men don’t typically share or confide in others in the same way that women do. And yet, like women, many of them struggle with shyness, self-doubt, and insecurity. They don’t naturally seek help from their men friends like women do, what to speak of hiring a coach.
Like women, dudes also have body image issues and the added pressure to be successful – and if they believe they can’t compete with other successful men, they tend to resign themselves to their plight because they don’t know how to get themselves out of their rut.
One of the big issues men struggle with is relationships – in fact, many women complain to me that they wish men were better at communicating with them.
Women tell me that they would love more attention and a deeper connection with men (not just sexual), and they’d love their men to be more vulnerable, conversational, and charming – women long to meet a true gentleman. There's nothing more attractive than a guy who knows who he is and who is comfortable in his own skin.
Don’t get me wrong! There are plenty of charming, personable, and self-aware men in the world but there are a lot of dudes out there who could use some help, especially if they are looking to find a great relationship – and believe me, men are just as interested in finding a great relationship as women.
The big misconception that men (and women) have about relationships is the pressure to look perfect physically and to act hard to get. Physical attractiveness does play a role, but there’s so much more going on than having six-pack abs. Attraction is not all about how you look.
I was once married to a lovely man who was 30 pounds overweight but he had an intellect and deep sensitivity and intimacy that exuded confidence and charisma. I’ve also been with handsome and athletic dudes who were so superficial and who bored me once the initial physical attraction wore off.
We live in a world that likes to remind us that how we look is everything. We’re told to lose weight, dress better, and play the game of seduction. There’s nothing inherently wrong with these outside-in approaches, but there is so much more going on behind the scenes when it comes to attracting and sustaining attention and authentic relationships.
The good news is that claiming your natural charisma doesn’t mean you have to be outgoing, physically attractive, or an extravert. And this is not about changing your personality.
So how do we increase our likeability and charisma?
How do we get the attention we want?
What is charisma and how do we get it?
These are just some of the issues that are explored and addressed when you work with me. You're going to discover an inside-out approach - an attractive force that you already have within you but has been put to sleep.
If you are genuinely interested in mastering your relationships and becoming a magnet for real love, then begin by signing up for a free 30-minute discovery call – let’s see if you’re a good fit and how I can (really) help you to change your life.