Would you be offended if I told you it's none of your business what people think about you? So many of us spend so much time and energy worrying and ruminating over the fact that someone doesn't like us, or that they ignore us, or dump us, or criticize us. So much wasted time...will they like what I'm wearing? Why doesn't that person love me? I need them to like me. And on and on it goes.
Truth is: it's really none of our business what other people think about us.
When we spend our lives trying to get other people to like us by people-pleasing, we lose ourselves. We forget who we really are because we're so preoccupied with wanting their approval. Can you feel the exhaustion in that?
Imagine if you could show up in life and not expect people to like you. The truth is you are not ever going to be liked by everyone. Sorry, but you're not everyone's cup of tea!
When it bothers you that someone doesn't prefer or like you, what do you make that mean? Do you view yourself as defective, or not good enough? When we see that it's just their preference--that's it's not about YOU, but about them, is the biggest game-changer.
It will free you.
Allow people to hate you, criticize you, dump you, and have their opinion about you. Can you do that? People have a right to think what they do about us. Have you noticed that you/we do the same thing to them?
Instead of worrying and anguishing over what others think of us, pay attention to how you view yourself. Do YOU like YOU? That's a much better use of your time. Allow others to have an opinion about you. Let others be who they are. When you set them free to do this, you set yourself free.
True Confidence is allowing others to think whatever they want about us.