I can’t count the number of times I’ve thought about doing something and in the next moment, I’ve talked myself out of it.
Whether it’s to eat healthy food, leave a relationship, or put myself and my work out there for all to see, that voice butts in and sabotages me. Pulls the plug. Drains me of my power. It’s the opposite of self-empowerment.
Why do we sabotage ourselves when we have the opportunity at that moment to empower ourselves?
Why do we instead choose to betray ourselves and the truth of who we really are? Why do we deliberately give in to our excuses and do this to ourselves?
Part of the reason is that we don’t want to do hard things – we’re afraid of being uncomfortable.
But let’s be clear about what sabotaging really is.
When we sabotage ourselves it’s because we don’t believe we have the power to live through hard tasks.
We don’t believe that we have resilience.
We don’t believe that we are creative.
We don’t believe we are designed and hardwired to survive.
We don’t believe we have power within us.
We’ve forgotten who we really are.
There came a time for me – it was about 7 years ago – that I caught on to myself. I could no longer lean on my excuses. I knew what I was doing. And there were many excuses.
I’m not qualified to do this…
I don’t have what it takes…
no one’s going to listen to me anyway…
Don’t bother because it’s all been said and done before.
It was one big (pathetic) sad story.
And with those excuses, I noticed that they always stopped me from walking through the doors of opportunity – the dreams I had for my life. Those doors would slam tightly shut in my face. Is it any wonder I never had much self-esteem?
We all sabotage ourselves at some point. But there comes a time when we have see it for what it is – that we’re deliberately doing it to ourselves because we don’t believe we have enough power to do things.
Take on your saboteur.
See the lie.
Stop blaming your circumstances and others for your insecurity.
Take on the challenge.
See the saboteur as a catalyst to you accessing your own power.
This is how you’ll nurture your self-esteem. Because when you do, that’s when you’ll discover powers within yourself you never knew you had.
Walk through those doors that you’ve purposefully locked. Count on the whole of you.
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